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“Pick Your Mate Wisely (Pt. 2)”

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Sermon Outline

A person's influence on you depends largely on their closeness to you.
You don't pick your family, but you do pick your family of influencers. This certainly includes your spouse!


A God-centered marriage brings God glory and points a sinful world to a reconciling Creator.

It is more about making us holy than happy.

Pick your mate wisely because he/she is…
  1. The friend who walks beside you. (Amos 3:3)
  2. The agent who consistently humbles you. (Proverbs 27:5, 28:23)
  3. The lover who graciously satisfies you. (1 Corinthians 7:2-4)


Pick your mate wisely because he/she is…
4. The soldier who helps protect you.

Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 NKJV Two are better than one, Because they have a good reward for their labor. 10 For if they fall, one will lift up his companion. But woe to him who is alone when he falls, For he has no one to help him up. 11 Again, if two lie down together, they will keep warm; But how can one be warm alone? 12 Though one may be overpowered by another, two can withstand him. And a threefold cord is not quickly broken.

In the heat of the battle, you don't need a person on your back, you need a partner who has your back!

5. The theologian who is nearest to you.

Proverbs 15:2, 22-23 NKJV The tongue of the wise uses knowledge rightly, But the mouth of fools pours forth foolishness.22 Without counsel, plans go awry, But in the multitude of counselors they are established. 23 A man has joy by the answer of his mouth, And a word spoken in due season, how good it is!Proverbs 16:24 NKJV Pleasant words are like a honeycomb, Sweetness to the soul and health to the bones.Proverbs 27:17 NKJV As iron sharpens iron, So a man sharpens the countenance of his friend.

"Truth without love is too hard; love without truth is too soft." —John Stott

6. The supporter who invests in you.

Philippians 2:3-4 NKJV Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself. 4 Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others.

A house is made of walls and beams; a home is made of love and dreams.

7. The partner who leads with you.

Proverbs 31:10-12, 23, 26-28 NKJV Who can find a virtuous wife? For her worth is far above rubies. 11 The heart of her husband safely trusts her; So he will have no lack of gain. 12 She does him good and not evil All the days of her life.23 Her husband is known in the gates, When he sits among the elders of the land.26 She opens her mouth with wisdom, And on her tongue is the law of kindness. 27 She watches over the ways of her household, And does not eat the bread of idleness. 28 Her children rise up and call her blessed; Her husband also, and he praises her:

Psalm 128:1-6 NKJV Blessed is every one who fears the Lord, Who walks in His ways. 2 When you eat the labor of your hands, You shall be happy, and it shall be well with you. 3 Your wife shall be like a fruitful vine In the very heart of your house, Your children like olive plants All around your table. 4 Behold, thus shall the man be blessed Who fears the Lord. 5 The Lord bless you out of Zion, And may you see the good of Jerusalem All the days of your life. 6 Yes, may you see your children's children. Peace be upon Israel!

Spouses who put their partners first have marriages that last.